10 Things I Wish I Knew About Wichita Childbirth (Before I Gave Birth)
10 Surprising Options You Have For Birth | Wichita Birth Doula
Hey there, mama-to-be!
You might be feeling a little overwhelmed with all the information (or lack thereof) about giving birth. But don't worry — I’ve got you!
Here are 10 things your doctor probably didn't tell you that can help you feel more prepared and in control.
(And hey, if any of these pique your interest, bring them up at your next appointment!)
1. You don't have to give birth in the hospital.
Giving birth at home or in a birth center can provide a more relaxed and intimate setting. It allows you more control over your experience and can feel much more personal.
This option is safe for low-risk pregnancies and studies show outcomes are similar — or often better — compared to hospital births.
In Wichita, we’re lucky to have so many amazing home birth and birth center midwives. I always recommend meeting with a couple to get a feel for who’s the best fit for you — you might be surprised how right it feels!
Question for your doctor:
Would I be considered a good candidate for a home birth or birth center birth since I'm low risk?
Midwife - Samantha Goodell, CNM.
2. Epidurals aren't the only form of pain relief.
As a doula, I’ve seen mamas find incredible relief with things like nitrous oxide, massage, and even just low lighting and movement. Options to discuss with your provider include:
Hypnobirthing
Nitrous oxide
Hot water
Massage
Counterpressure
These can offer a more natural and less invasive way to manage labor pain.
For Wichita moms, nitrous oxide is currently only available at our local birth centers Born Midwifery and Wichita Birth Assistance. You can read more about them here!
Question for your doctor:
What other pain relief options do you see work well besides epidurals?
3. You can bring your own music or sounds to the delivery room.
As a doula, all too often I see people laboring to the monotonous (often aggravating) sounds of beeping monitors. Instead - imagine laboring to your favorite calming playlist — or the same song you danced to at your wedding. Music is a powerful medicine during birth!
Bring:
Your favorite playlist
Noise cancelling headphones
A sound machine
Even your own voice through humming or chanting!
Question for your doctor:
I want to explore Intermittent monitoring - Can we discuss the pro’s and con’s?
4. Birthing pools can help you relax during labor.
Warm water can ease contractions, help you move more easily, and provide privacy and comfort. Luckily, tubs are available in every room at both hospitals!
Question for your doctor:
Are there any specific conditions or requirements for using the birthing tub at the hospital, and how can I make sure it’s available when I’m in labor?
5. You’ll probably poop during labor (and it’s totally normal).
Seriously — it's a normal part of pushing and your nurses and doctors are so used to it. It's nothing to be embarrassed about!
In fact, your birth team will probably be pretty excited to see this sign - it means you are SO CLOSE to meeting your baby!
6. Birthing positions matter (and you have options!).
You aren't limited to lying flat on your back. Different positions — like standing, hands and knees, squatting, or side-lying — can help labor progress and feel more comfortable.
Question for your doctor:
What birthing positions are you comfortable supporting? How do the moms you see normally give birth?
PS… Even with an epidural, I’ve helped moms give birth in all kinds of positions! Side lying, assisted squatting, or even hands and knees are possible depending on the strength of epidural and team you have supporting you!
Side Lying with Peanut ball
7. Doulas can make a life-changing difference during your birth.
A doula is a trained professional who provides continuous emotional, physical, and informational support during pregnancy, labor, and postpartum. Studies show that having a doula can lower your chances of needing interventions like c-sections, epidurals, or forceps — and can even shorten labor.
But more importantly, a doula helps you feel heard, respected, and empowered throughout your experience. They’re by your side to help you navigate decisions, stay calm, and remind you of your strength when you need it most.
Whether you're planning an unmedicated birth or simply want more support in the room, having a doula can make your birth feel more positive, no matter how it unfolds.
Question for your doctor:
"Do you often work with doulas? Are there any you’dd recommend?"
8. You can eat and drink during labor (in many cases).
Research shows that eating and drinking during labor can help maintain energy levels and prevent dehydration, both of which are key to stamina during labor.
Many women find that having a light snack or sipping on fluids helps them stay focused and strong throughout their birth.
Question for your doctor:
Under what circumstances would I not be allowed to eat or drink during labor?
This client enjoyed a variety of foods during her labor - including a fruit tray!
9. Your mind is powerful — use visualization and relaxation techniques.
Your mind is incredibly powerful! Visualization, deep breathing, and relaxation techniques (like hypnobirthing or meditation) can help you stay calm and focused — and yes, they can also lower stress hormones and boost your body’s natural pain-relieving endorphins.
I’ve seen so many mamas tap into their inner strength using these tools, and it’s truly amazing to watch. The more you can train your mind to stay calm, the easier it’ll be to ride the waves of labor with confidence.
Question for your doctor:
Have you seen many women successfully use hypnobirthing techniques during labor, and do you think it could be a good fit for me?
10. Cesarean sections aren’t as scary as they seem.
While c-sections are major surgeries and carry risks, they are a common and safe method of delivery when needed. Your care team will be focused on keeping both you and your baby safe throughout the process.
Even if your birth plan changes and you need to head to the OR, you still have options to make the experience more comfortable and personal! Here are a few things you can request:
Photo/video: Anesthesia can make your memory a bit fuzzy, so asking for a photo or video can help capture and bring back those important first moments.
Music: Play your calming labor playlist—familiar music can help you stay grounded and relaxed, even in the operating room.
Anxiety medication: If you’re feeling anxious, talk to your doctor about options for medications or other techniques to help you feel more at ease.
Skin-to-skin: Request immediate skin-to-skin contact with your baby after birth, which is beneficial for bonding and can help regulate their temperature and heart rate.
Even in the OR, you still have choices to help make your birth experience meaningful and positive.
No matter the circumstances of your birth - you deserve to remember your baby’s first moments
Final Thoughts
There you have it, mama. You're now armed with new information that can help you feel more confident, empowered, and excited about your upcoming birth!
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